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Should I speak to a therapist of my gender and race

When you finally take the leap to seek the help of a therapist, you have high expectations. You hope they don’t judge you. You want them to be comforting. And you want them to be understanding. But above all you want them to help you handle the situation that you are going through. So would […]

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10 boundaries you must develop today

Ever hear a company rep do or not do something because it goes against their policy. It could be as simple as asking you a ton of question to verify your identity when it’s obvious you’re the account holder. Or not allowing you to return an item because the window to return it has past […]

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Suicide in academia: High expectations and shame

All Desi parents want their children to do well in school. But while they might admit it or not, many of their reasons are unhealthy. And even with the best intentions, their pressure to do well in school pushes many of their kids to the point of no return. Is the cost of life worth […]

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Difference between self esteem and confidence

There are super models that do million dollar shoots in the most exotic places of the world. High end fashion brands invest in them because their physical feature is envied and desired. But when you talk to some of these models you find that they are shy, unable to speak in public or be adventurous. […]

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Brush, wash face, poop, meditate

You’ve heard the benefits of meditation everywhere. It’s supposed to help you reduce stress, focus, and get a better night sleep. So you download an app. Or watch a youtube video . And what do you know? It was kinda cool. You do feel a little better. You gotta try this again. And you do. […]

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Boys don’t cry, men don’t know how

I saw Padmavati in theaters recently and noted the most honest exchange in a scene between Sultan Allauddin Khilji and his official writer Amir Khushro. Amir is reciting the letter he wrote on Allaudin’s behalf to Alauddin’s object of obsession, Queen Padmavati. The Sultan is lamenting how he wishes he could put into words what […]

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Lasting effects of hitting a child

Is there a single desi person that hasn’t been hit as a child for discipline or as punishment? For some of us lucky few, both parents and teachers participated in this cultural practice. Look at us all grown up now. We turned out great. Must’ve worked! Or did it? The physical scars may have disappeared. […]

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Speaking over women, let’s stop that

I was thinking what hypermasculine topic in Desi men could I write about today. There is such a great variety of choices to choose from. But I figured that the most honest topic would be the one that hit close to home. South Asian men speaking over women. I am a South Asian man that […]

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Teaching good touch / bad touch at an early age

If you ask someone if they got unwanted sexual attention during childhood. Most men will say no. And some women would eventually say that they did. But when you change that question to “Were you ever touched as a child in a way you didn’t want to be touched?” The honest answer would invariably become […]

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Why don’t Desis go to a therapist?

When I was in a dark place in my life I was fortunate enough to have love and support of my family and friends. I could talk to anyone. Meet up for coffee. Hang out at the museum. Whatever I wanted to do, they were up for it. But it did not make me feel […]

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